The Things I Learned in 2010

This is really a continuation of my previous post. Whereas, the other post simply tells you what I accomplished in 2010, this post tells you what I learned this past year.  Therefore the titles come from my previous post.


LESSON LEARNED: Don’t doubt your own capabilities. We often can achieve  more than we think we can. So it doesn’t hurt to  try something new. I also learned there are some things I will never get no matter how hard I try-Math is one of those things.


LESSON LEARNED:  I learned I can do the impossible, if I just get out of my own way. As a kid I wondered what it must be like  to be really smart like Laura (my sister) or Leonard (my brother). Jeff (my other brother) was smart too but he was more like me.  So we had the two geniuses-Laura and Leonard and then there was just us average Joes-Jeff and me. Little did I know that I had a Laura/Leonard in me all along.  That I could make the Dean’s List, that I could achieve and accomplish feats that always seemed out of my grasp. I often told myself I was smarter than what other people knew but for once it was nice to not have it be some state secret, to show the world that it had been there all along. Who knew? I learned that the only thing holding me back all these years was me and all I because it was easier for me to believe the lies told to me than to try to prove them wrong! Well no more!


LESSON LEARNED: I learned that I do have leadership qualities. My friend, Carter Clews told me once: “You are going to be a leader of your people.” I thought he was just being sweet. But obviously there was something  in me that I wasn’t seeing myself. Something that he could.  Being a leader doensn’t mean bossing people around, it means being able to inspire and motivate them to do for themselves. It means uplifting your fellow man.  That’s the kind of leader I want to be anyway. Hopefully, that is the kind of leader  was in my club, if not then I will keep working on it. Progress not perfection, I keep reminding myself. I will get there one day.


LESSON LEARNED:  I learned I am not a quitter (that was a shocker, let me tell you.), I always thought  I was. I learned I have more ambition than I ever thought I did. Ambition was always a dirty word to me.  I never really appreciated ambitious people. I always equated ambition with greed, being corrupt and ruthlessness. That was not me! Then I learned ambition and drive are good things and that one need not be a harbinger of evil to be ambitious. Now I can see a future where none existed before. Now I can see a fruitful and productive life where once it had been barren. Now I see what God saw all along-a beautiful but broken person who just needed a little love, a big push and a dream. Thank you God for giving me those things. Lastly, I learned that power is intoxicaiting-especially when it is power that comes from God.


LESSON LEARNED: Something I had leanred by joining the church was that God was not an absentee father. Though I already had knowledge of that, it really crystallized this past year. What I learned was how truly close he is to all of us. I learned while we need him, he also needs us. He needs us to serve one another, to love one another, to be each other’s rock. For he cannot achieve anything if we are unwilling to listen to him. This year I learned what  a wonderful father, Heavenly Father truly is. Our talks during the summer made me feel so much closer to him. I will always cherish that bond. It is the most valuable thing that I have.


LESSON LEARNED:  I learned Adonai grows more amazing every day. That I am lucky that God chose me to be his mother. I learned again..that there is no one more worth fighting for and no one I am more afraid of losing.  I learned that being a full time mother is the most difficult and the most rewarding thing in the world. Most of all, I learned patience is not the outward appearance of being “nice” that it is, however,  not giving up when everything inside of you is screaming so loud for you to do just that. I learned that I have a lot more patience than I ever thought I did. God bless my little man.


 LESSON LEARNED: I learned that success in other areas doesn’t amount to a hill of beans if you don’t have success in your personal life. I learned that if my situation is to change, I am going to have to have the same determination to alter it as I do the rest of my life. I have learned that love of  a child can save you, love of God can heal you, but neither replaces the love of one good man. I am intent on finding him.


LESSON LEARNED: Actually it was a lesson solidified more than learned.  I love my family dearly and I couldn’t have asked for anyone better but as a child I always wondered what it would be like to be with my biological family, you know the people who looked like me. The irony of the situation is  even if I would’ve stayed with my biological family, there still wouldn’t have been anyone who looked like me. So all that time spent wondering, all that time spent wishing was for naught! What I learned was how truly lucky I was all along. Of course, I knew that but now I truly knew that! Knowing where I came from has just made me love my real family even more! My real family is the Leichnitzes and they always will be!

The Leichnitz Chronicles: A Faith Odyssey

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Okay so 2010 has come and gone and you may be wondering what has become of Dena and Adonai in 2010.  Or you may be thinking “Who in the heck is Dena and Adonai and why did you forward this email to me, I don’t know these people!” Either way you are about to find out (well if you didn’t delete the email that is)


         This year was my year of languages. In the Spring of 2010, I took a semester of Spanish, (Amor es muy mal or Love Sucks!) I have sung the Spirit of God in Korean, I sung Silent Night in German (Stille Nacht, heilige Nacht) I have tried to learn the language of Math (quadratic formula= -b to the square root of b squared minus 4ac divided by 2a. ) I am in my church choir and have attempted to learn the language of music. (the only thing I know for certain in that respect is that I am an alto) And in the fall of 2009, I took a business law class, so I know the basics of law (stare decisis-the doctrine of precedent. That cases that are decided in a court of law will be used as a basis for deciding cases in future litigation) and the most difficult of all these languages-Math-hands down!!!


 This year I was bestowed with many honors. I made the Dean’s List-twice. I have made the Ralph Bunche Scholars Program. Ralph Bunche Scholars is an Honor’s program at Los Angeles City College (LACC) and UCLA is aligned with the program (in fact, they have a whole building named after him on their campus) so people who complete the program are pretty much guaranteed admission to UCLA. However, people have used the program to get into other UCs and private colleges including Occidental. [Given that Occidental helped produce Barack Obama, the most corrupt and vile human being to ever grace the White House, it makes wonder what they are teaching people there. Then again they also helped produce my
brother, so they must be doing something right.] I am a bit worried my Honor’s status might be compromise by Math 125 grade. I have never in life prayed so hard for a C. Stayed tune to see how that turns out.


         No, I am not some party girl dancing the night away at some disco with bad electronica music. This past semester I was elected the President of the Entertainment I.P., (Intellectual Property) Club. All of our meetings took place in the evening time, so that meant picking up Adonai from his school, going back to mine, attending the club meeting or getting things ready for an event and then going home, doing our homework, get ready for bed and start it all over again. It was not easy but we pulled it off.

          I was also a member of the Legal Association at LACC. My good friend, Andrea Bari, was the President. We worked together and put together some really good events. With our joint efforts we created the most successful semester for our clubs. Andrea was pivotal in getting the El Camino Theater for our last event which was a panel of entertainment lawyers. I was able to get two of the speakers to come and attend. I was able to get the funding for food, I was also the person responsible for collecting and asking the questions for our panelists. I couldn’t have done any of it without the help of Andrea, Karen Pinkston (EIP’s vice president) who helped in getting the questions passed out and collected and Sharon La Gue (EIP’ssecretary, and an awesome one at that!) who helped me with all last minute details. Sharon calculated we had about 130 people come to our event. It was a great success due to our team effort. It went so well that one of the panelists recommended me for an internship. I am waiting to hear back from that.

         Our club advisor, Wilheim I. Vargas, the Chair of the Law Department said it was the most successful semester that either club had ever had. It was great to be a part of it. I really enjoyed everything we did, including the UCLA tour which Karen put together.


         In 2009, I applied for a Senator position with the Associated Students’ Organization (ASO) the student government of LACC. I was denied because of my conservative views. Even though I had been promised a position, I was later told they were postponing it, only to have it go to someone else entirely due to the bigotry by the ASO president of the time. Given that I am Leichnitz though and we are not quitters, I came to the conclusion, if I didn’t try again, the bigot would win. He wasn’t going to win.  So I applied for another position. It was the Senator of Disabled Student Affairs.

         After I applied, I found out my friend, Sharon LaGue, was also applying for the same position.  So I was going to apply for the Senator at Large position instead because I felt Sharon would do a better job for the Disabled Students than I would. However, when she backed out, I decided to go for it after all. So I have my interview. I am told to come in the following Tuesday to see if I will get elected. I am asked what has been my greatest accomplishment so far and I tell of how I was held back during my K-12 academic career because no one ever believed I was smart enough to achieve anything. I further explain how I went from that place to being an Honor’s student here at LACC. I wasn’t too impressed with my speech but later Andrea would tell me how it touched him. He called it “sad but empowering.” That meant a lot. Mostly, because I still think I am such a lousy orator but maybe I have better oratory skills than I realize.

         I was confirmed a Senator for Disabled Student Affairs. I had overcome the bigot’s hatred! I had won! So I set out to do my job. I have devised a survey for disabled students to see what is needed for them, what LACC is doing well, what they are failing in. I am trying to come up with a fundraiser for the Office of Special Services (OSS) that will help with making sure disabled students have the services they need. So keep your calendars open during the last couple weeks of May because D-Day is coming!

         Don’t know if I will ever become a real Senator but being an ASO one (even for 2 weeks) has been interesting to say the least.


         My faith in Jesus Christ has grown as well. During the summer I did 30 days with God on Facebook where for thirty days all my statuses were directed to God. I was not allowed to talk about anything that was not directly about my relationship with God. It was truly something. I also put responses from God as well, but they had to be what I really thought he would say in the situation. Doing this little experiment my love for Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ intensified. I could feel them really work within me.

         Also in 2010 I joined the Wilshire Ward choir. I also sang in the Stake Choir as well. I remember as I was singing the Spirit of God in Korean, I felt the Spirit so powerfully. It sounded ten times more beautiful than we had rehearsed it as if God and his angels themselves were singing along with us. It was awe-inspiring.

         I also taught a class at our ward. It was called “Preach My Gospel.” The class is based on our church manual by the same name. It is all about the Restoration of the Gospel and the Plan of Salvation. I really do love teaching and passing on the knowledge I have learned to others. I try to use humor in my lessons while putting everything in layman’s terms. I have been told by others that they like my teaching style and that they learn a lot from me in my class. I do think there is a teacher in me just dying to get out but considering I have already worked for LAUSD once, I don’t ever see that happening again. However, I did teach the Constitution online in 2009 and I think I will do that again. That was something I truly enjoyed. Given the state of our nation, it is going to be imperative that we all learn the Constitution, in order to restore our rights that are being stripped from us.

         Everything I have accomplished this past year has been because of Jesus Christ and Heavenly Father. I couldn’t have done any of it without them. God has blessed me so much this past year that there were times I would look in the mirror and wouldn’t recognize the face looking back. Not in a bad way, but in a very amazing way. It is as if I was truly being sculpted in the image he had of me and it was more magnificent than even I could imagine. I began to see in me the things he always saw. My intelligence, my beauty, my heart (for others but especially him), my strength. Whereas, I always saw failure, he saw success and brought it forth. Whereas, I always saw my weaknesses, he saw my ability to overcome life’s obstacles and removed the hurdles from my path. Whereas I saw myself as never smart enough, he saw my thirst for learning and knowledge and then showed the world how wrong they had always been. My beauty, well that one I am still working on but I smile a lot more when I look at my reflection than I ever did before.

         2010 was definitely a journey I will not soon forget. I met many amazing people. People like Andrea, Karen, Sharon, Shanan Sung (from my English 102 class) and Diana Solis (from my Math 115 class). Of course, no one is more amazing than my little one, Adonai.


         Adonai and I have had a lot of ups and downs this year. The year started off rather turbulently but things have worked themselves out. Our bond has deepened over this last year. Academically, he has done tremendously well. At this stage, he is only supposed to read 56 words per minute, he reads at 136 words per minute. His comprehension is also high. He needs to work on his writing but even that has shown a marked improvement over the past year.

         He will be tested next year for the gifted program. He should be able to get into it. Of course none of this is a surprise to me. I knew at three months old, that my child was a genius. Everybody thought I was crazy because I said he showed advanced problem solving skills at that t ime [He learned how to hold his own bottle by then. Though he wasn’t strong enough to hold it in his hands, he figured out if he placed it on his wrist and then lifted his arm up to his mouth and if held the bottle with his other hand he could drink. Do you know any other 3 months old who can do that? I don’t think so!] , but I finally get to say, “See I told you so!” Now I got proof baby, that I was right all along!

         Sorry about that, just a mother’s pride talking there for a moment. Next year will be a big year for Adonai. He will turn eight and will be able to be baptized (we are still working on that) and will be able to join the Boys Scouts. He is growing up so fast. I am proud of my little man. He is growing into a wonderful, caring person.


         There is not much to discuss on the personal side, actually it has been an utter failure. The closest thing I have had to a date is when Andrea and I went to the Mexican restaurant across the street from the school. It has sort of become our tradition, at the end of every semester we go to this little Mexican restaurant and celebrate being one semester closer to graduation.  

         Though I hate being alone, I am slowly becoming to accept this is my fate. That I will probably never be married. It is not an easy thing to come to terms with. Accepting I had cancer was a cakewalk compared to accepting that I may never find anyone who loves me. Well that is not exactly true, I have found someone who does love me, he just doesn’t want to marry me. His name is Kenny and we have known each other for years. He is a wonderful man and a great friend. In fact, he got me through a trial in my life this past year that I wouldn’t have survived without his support. When my life started falling apart around February, all I could think of at the time was that I needed to call Kenny.  I knew he would help me. He did. I think that trial deepened our relationship. He went from never even using the word love in regard to me to being the first one to say before hanging up. Of course, there were stages in between but I am wearing him down. LOL

Even so he is in New York, I’m out here and it would sure would be nice to have a date once in a while. Oh well, I have gone four years without one, I guess I can do five. Que sera sera.                                 

                 WE ARE FAMILY…OR NOT!!!

This summer proved to be a rather difficult one, after 40 years of wondering, after 40 years of not knowing, I found my biological family.  I met a woman on Facebook and when I found out she helped people to find their biological families, I asked her to find mine. She did. I found out my biological mother was still alive. I was one of 7 children. A lot of things matched up with what my adoptive mother told me.  Mom told me that my birth mother didn’t keep any of her children. My half brother would confirm that. My Mom told me of a story (which sort of clenched it for me) that my birth mother was adamant that I was Swedish or something. My birth mother was adamant that I was Silician. Anyway, I talked to my oldest brother and things seemed to go well until I sent him my picture, then I never heard from him again. As for my birth mother, she didn’t want me to contact her. Saw that coming from a mile away. Figured I didn’t really lose anything and this way I sort of know. Oh well, I already have the best family around doesn’t matter if these strangers don’t want to be my family. It is their loss, not mine.

DADT Repealed by Lame Duck Session!!!

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The current lame duck session of the Obama Administration has repealed Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (DADT) policy that was formerly instituted by the Clinton administration. The policy allowed homosexuals to serve in the military as long as they kept their orientation to themselves. It seemed like a workable compromise then allowing homosexuality to run rampant in the military.

My problem with the overturning of DADT has more to do with the lack of  respect for the military than whether DADT should be allowed to stand or not. No one took into account what would truly be best for those in the military. Being that I have a nephew in the Army now, I think his voice should’ve been heard in regards to this issue. He is the one who is going to have to deal with it, not me, not the politicians, but the officers and enlisted men and women themselves.  My nephew might be for it, after all he has a lot of gay relatives in his family and is not exactly anti gay rights. However, it is one thing to be for gay marriage, for example, and quite another to have share close quarters with a man you know is gay. Either way, his input and the input of all our service men and women  should’ve been taken into account.

 People will try to equate this to when Blacks were finally allowed to serve side by side with Whites. It is nothing of the kind, personally I get sick of them throwing up my skin color whenever they want to make a point about “equality.” Being  Black is not a “behavior.” It is a genetic, inherent,  unmutable characteristic of a person. A Black person does not go back and forth on whether they want to be Black or White. There is no internal dialogue about whether they should come out or not. A Black person just is…Black. Homosexuality is a behavior. Therefore it is not equal to my skin color.

That being said it is immaterial what I think about homosexuality in the military. For all I have is my opinion. Just like all these Senators have is their opinion. Even McCain who voted for this and has served in the military honorably won’t have to serve under these new conditions they are creating, so it is easy for him to vote for it. However, the people whom this would affect were treated as though they were stupid children and not highly skilled military personnel. I find the whole handling of this insulting to those who serve our country proudly.

I found this quote from an anonymous soldier in the military on a website:

Well being a firefighter is different then being in combat. You may sleep in a room together but we may have to sleep in the same sleeping bag in certain situations. I’m in the military and I definitely agree it would affect unit cohesion. Wierd how the news always says the military supports the repeal of DADT yet everyone I talk to agrees we should keep it. Who’s taking these surveys and why haven’t I or anyone I know been given a chance to voice our concerns?

Is that really too much to ask? To let the people who serve have their say in this? Then really listen to those concerns and take them into consideration before making a decision! I am appalled! Not by whether homosexuals should be allowed to serve but with the blatant disrespect and disregard that we treat our military personnel! They deserve better!

LACC’s ASO Appoints New Senator for Disabled Students

Note: Sorry I am so late putting this up but it is called finals people. LOL

On November 29, 2010,  I went to a Senate meeting at LACC to see if I would be appointed a senatorship. After the last debacle with ASO, I knew better to count on anything. For a refresher go to:

I got there and they had forgotten my paperwork…and I was like “Okay here we go again.” But this time they were able to locate it and I was able to put forth my case before the board.  I was voted in! It was a great feeling.  And so I was off and running. I have devised a survey for disabled students to take so I can get to know their needs. I have emailed and talked to the person who runs the Office of Special Services (OSS) and I have talked to the President of ASO about creating a fundraiser to get more funds to OSS. 

Then last Friday we were nominating people for stipends and my good friend, Andrea nominated me for one.  He said all these wonderful things about me and I just wanted to cry (It’s a girl thing, alright!? LOL). So, of course, I nominated him as well. We should be receiving the funds no later than our 99th birthday. LOL

In the meantime, I have taken my last final, which I think I did fairly well on. I am quaking in my boots waiting for my Math 125 grade to be posted. I haven’t bought one Christmas gift for anyone (well actually Andrea got his, along with the other people in my Entertainment IP club), my phone is not working, me and my kid are going to have to spend three weeks together without killing each other, Andrea is on his way to Italy-I won’t see him for two months and I am stressed, exhausted and am sure to gain at least 10 pounds in these next few weeks.

Sorry about that, this about me being appointed to the ASO Senate isn’t it? Forgive my meltdown. I guess I am losing my mind over here. I think that makes me a real Senator after all, doesn’t it?

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My Three 2010 Must-Do's

Get a date with a nice guy
Because I am tired of having convents call me to ask me when I am going to turn in my application to be a nun.

Go out on a date with a nice guy
See answer #1

Repeat one and two until we’re married.
It is all about the celestial kingdom baby.

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