The Things I Learned in 2010

This is really a continuation of my previous post. Whereas, the other post simply tells you what I accomplished in 2010, this post tells you what I learned this past year.  Therefore the titles come from my previous post.


LESSON LEARNED: Don’t doubt your own capabilities. We often can achieve  more than we think we can. So it doesn’t hurt to  try something new. I also learned there are some things I will never get no matter how hard I try-Math is one of those things.


LESSON LEARNED:  I learned I can do the impossible, if I just get out of my own way. As a kid I wondered what it must be like  to be really smart like Laura (my sister) or Leonard (my brother). Jeff (my other brother) was smart too but he was more like me.  So we had the two geniuses-Laura and Leonard and then there was just us average Joes-Jeff and me. Little did I know that I had a Laura/Leonard in me all along.  That I could make the Dean’s List, that I could achieve and accomplish feats that always seemed out of my grasp. I often told myself I was smarter than what other people knew but for once it was nice to not have it be some state secret, to show the world that it had been there all along. Who knew? I learned that the only thing holding me back all these years was me and all I because it was easier for me to believe the lies told to me than to try to prove them wrong! Well no more!


LESSON LEARNED: I learned that I do have leadership qualities. My friend, Carter Clews told me once: “You are going to be a leader of your people.” I thought he was just being sweet. But obviously there was something  in me that I wasn’t seeing myself. Something that he could.  Being a leader doensn’t mean bossing people around, it means being able to inspire and motivate them to do for themselves. It means uplifting your fellow man.  That’s the kind of leader I want to be anyway. Hopefully, that is the kind of leader  was in my club, if not then I will keep working on it. Progress not perfection, I keep reminding myself. I will get there one day.


LESSON LEARNED:  I learned I am not a quitter (that was a shocker, let me tell you.), I always thought  I was. I learned I have more ambition than I ever thought I did. Ambition was always a dirty word to me.  I never really appreciated ambitious people. I always equated ambition with greed, being corrupt and ruthlessness. That was not me! Then I learned ambition and drive are good things and that one need not be a harbinger of evil to be ambitious. Now I can see a future where none existed before. Now I can see a fruitful and productive life where once it had been barren. Now I see what God saw all along-a beautiful but broken person who just needed a little love, a big push and a dream. Thank you God for giving me those things. Lastly, I learned that power is intoxicaiting-especially when it is power that comes from God.


LESSON LEARNED: Something I had leanred by joining the church was that God was not an absentee father. Though I already had knowledge of that, it really crystallized this past year. What I learned was how truly close he is to all of us. I learned while we need him, he also needs us. He needs us to serve one another, to love one another, to be each other’s rock. For he cannot achieve anything if we are unwilling to listen to him. This year I learned what  a wonderful father, Heavenly Father truly is. Our talks during the summer made me feel so much closer to him. I will always cherish that bond. It is the most valuable thing that I have.


LESSON LEARNED:  I learned Adonai grows more amazing every day. That I am lucky that God chose me to be his mother. I learned again..that there is no one more worth fighting for and no one I am more afraid of losing.  I learned that being a full time mother is the most difficult and the most rewarding thing in the world. Most of all, I learned patience is not the outward appearance of being “nice” that it is, however,  not giving up when everything inside of you is screaming so loud for you to do just that. I learned that I have a lot more patience than I ever thought I did. God bless my little man.


 LESSON LEARNED: I learned that success in other areas doesn’t amount to a hill of beans if you don’t have success in your personal life. I learned that if my situation is to change, I am going to have to have the same determination to alter it as I do the rest of my life. I have learned that love of  a child can save you, love of God can heal you, but neither replaces the love of one good man. I am intent on finding him.


LESSON LEARNED: Actually it was a lesson solidified more than learned.  I love my family dearly and I couldn’t have asked for anyone better but as a child I always wondered what it would be like to be with my biological family, you know the people who looked like me. The irony of the situation is  even if I would’ve stayed with my biological family, there still wouldn’t have been anyone who looked like me. So all that time spent wondering, all that time spent wishing was for naught! What I learned was how truly lucky I was all along. Of course, I knew that but now I truly knew that! Knowing where I came from has just made me love my real family even more! My real family is the Leichnitzes and they always will be!

The Leichnitz Chronicles: A Faith Odyssey

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Okay so 2010 has come and gone and you may be wondering what has become of Dena and Adonai in 2010.  Or you may be thinking “Who in the heck is Dena and Adonai and why did you forward this email to me, I don’t know these people!” Either way you are about to find out (well if you didn’t delete the email that is)


         This year was my year of languages. In the Spring of 2010, I took a semester of Spanish, (Amor es muy mal or Love Sucks!) I have sung the Spirit of God in Korean, I sung Silent Night in German (Stille Nacht, heilige Nacht) I have tried to learn the language of Math (quadratic formula= -b to the square root of b squared minus 4ac divided by 2a. ) I am in my church choir and have attempted to learn the language of music. (the only thing I know for certain in that respect is that I am an alto) And in the fall of 2009, I took a business law class, so I know the basics of law (stare decisis-the doctrine of precedent. That cases that are decided in a court of law will be used as a basis for deciding cases in future litigation) and the most difficult of all these languages-Math-hands down!!!


 This year I was bestowed with many honors. I made the Dean’s List-twice. I have made the Ralph Bunche Scholars Program. Ralph Bunche Scholars is an Honor’s program at Los Angeles City College (LACC) and UCLA is aligned with the program (in fact, they have a whole building named after him on their campus) so people who complete the program are pretty much guaranteed admission to UCLA. However, people have used the program to get into other UCs and private colleges including Occidental. [Given that Occidental helped produce Barack Obama, the most corrupt and vile human being to ever grace the White House, it makes wonder what they are teaching people there. Then again they also helped produce my
brother, so they must be doing something right.] I am a bit worried my Honor’s status might be compromise by Math 125 grade. I have never in life prayed so hard for a C. Stayed tune to see how that turns out.


         No, I am not some party girl dancing the night away at some disco with bad electronica music. This past semester I was elected the President of the Entertainment I.P., (Intellectual Property) Club. All of our meetings took place in the evening time, so that meant picking up Adonai from his school, going back to mine, attending the club meeting or getting things ready for an event and then going home, doing our homework, get ready for bed and start it all over again. It was not easy but we pulled it off.

          I was also a member of the Legal Association at LACC. My good friend, Andrea Bari, was the President. We worked together and put together some really good events. With our joint efforts we created the most successful semester for our clubs. Andrea was pivotal in getting the El Camino Theater for our last event which was a panel of entertainment lawyers. I was able to get two of the speakers to come and attend. I was able to get the funding for food, I was also the person responsible for collecting and asking the questions for our panelists. I couldn’t have done any of it without the help of Andrea, Karen Pinkston (EIP’s vice president) who helped in getting the questions passed out and collected and Sharon La Gue (EIP’ssecretary, and an awesome one at that!) who helped me with all last minute details. Sharon calculated we had about 130 people come to our event. It was a great success due to our team effort. It went so well that one of the panelists recommended me for an internship. I am waiting to hear back from that.

         Our club advisor, Wilheim I. Vargas, the Chair of the Law Department said it was the most successful semester that either club had ever had. It was great to be a part of it. I really enjoyed everything we did, including the UCLA tour which Karen put together.


         In 2009, I applied for a Senator position with the Associated Students’ Organization (ASO) the student government of LACC. I was denied because of my conservative views. Even though I had been promised a position, I was later told they were postponing it, only to have it go to someone else entirely due to the bigotry by the ASO president of the time. Given that I am Leichnitz though and we are not quitters, I came to the conclusion, if I didn’t try again, the bigot would win. He wasn’t going to win.  So I applied for another position. It was the Senator of Disabled Student Affairs.

         After I applied, I found out my friend, Sharon LaGue, was also applying for the same position.  So I was going to apply for the Senator at Large position instead because I felt Sharon would do a better job for the Disabled Students than I would. However, when she backed out, I decided to go for it after all. So I have my interview. I am told to come in the following Tuesday to see if I will get elected. I am asked what has been my greatest accomplishment so far and I tell of how I was held back during my K-12 academic career because no one ever believed I was smart enough to achieve anything. I further explain how I went from that place to being an Honor’s student here at LACC. I wasn’t too impressed with my speech but later Andrea would tell me how it touched him. He called it “sad but empowering.” That meant a lot. Mostly, because I still think I am such a lousy orator but maybe I have better oratory skills than I realize.

         I was confirmed a Senator for Disabled Student Affairs. I had overcome the bigot’s hatred! I had won! So I set out to do my job. I have devised a survey for disabled students to see what is needed for them, what LACC is doing well, what they are failing in. I am trying to come up with a fundraiser for the Office of Special Services (OSS) that will help with making sure disabled students have the services they need. So keep your calendars open during the last couple weeks of May because D-Day is coming!

         Don’t know if I will ever become a real Senator but being an ASO one (even for 2 weeks) has been interesting to say the least.


         My faith in Jesus Christ has grown as well. During the summer I did 30 days with God on Facebook where for thirty days all my statuses were directed to God. I was not allowed to talk about anything that was not directly about my relationship with God. It was truly something. I also put responses from God as well, but they had to be what I really thought he would say in the situation. Doing this little experiment my love for Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ intensified. I could feel them really work within me.

         Also in 2010 I joined the Wilshire Ward choir. I also sang in the Stake Choir as well. I remember as I was singing the Spirit of God in Korean, I felt the Spirit so powerfully. It sounded ten times more beautiful than we had rehearsed it as if God and his angels themselves were singing along with us. It was awe-inspiring.

         I also taught a class at our ward. It was called “Preach My Gospel.” The class is based on our church manual by the same name. It is all about the Restoration of the Gospel and the Plan of Salvation. I really do love teaching and passing on the knowledge I have learned to others. I try to use humor in my lessons while putting everything in layman’s terms. I have been told by others that they like my teaching style and that they learn a lot from me in my class. I do think there is a teacher in me just dying to get out but considering I have already worked for LAUSD once, I don’t ever see that happening again. However, I did teach the Constitution online in 2009 and I think I will do that again. That was something I truly enjoyed. Given the state of our nation, it is going to be imperative that we all learn the Constitution, in order to restore our rights that are being stripped from us.

         Everything I have accomplished this past year has been because of Jesus Christ and Heavenly Father. I couldn’t have done any of it without them. God has blessed me so much this past year that there were times I would look in the mirror and wouldn’t recognize the face looking back. Not in a bad way, but in a very amazing way. It is as if I was truly being sculpted in the image he had of me and it was more magnificent than even I could imagine. I began to see in me the things he always saw. My intelligence, my beauty, my heart (for others but especially him), my strength. Whereas, I always saw failure, he saw success and brought it forth. Whereas, I always saw my weaknesses, he saw my ability to overcome life’s obstacles and removed the hurdles from my path. Whereas I saw myself as never smart enough, he saw my thirst for learning and knowledge and then showed the world how wrong they had always been. My beauty, well that one I am still working on but I smile a lot more when I look at my reflection than I ever did before.

         2010 was definitely a journey I will not soon forget. I met many amazing people. People like Andrea, Karen, Sharon, Shanan Sung (from my English 102 class) and Diana Solis (from my Math 115 class). Of course, no one is more amazing than my little one, Adonai.


         Adonai and I have had a lot of ups and downs this year. The year started off rather turbulently but things have worked themselves out. Our bond has deepened over this last year. Academically, he has done tremendously well. At this stage, he is only supposed to read 56 words per minute, he reads at 136 words per minute. His comprehension is also high. He needs to work on his writing but even that has shown a marked improvement over the past year.

         He will be tested next year for the gifted program. He should be able to get into it. Of course none of this is a surprise to me. I knew at three months old, that my child was a genius. Everybody thought I was crazy because I said he showed advanced problem solving skills at that t ime [He learned how to hold his own bottle by then. Though he wasn’t strong enough to hold it in his hands, he figured out if he placed it on his wrist and then lifted his arm up to his mouth and if held the bottle with his other hand he could drink. Do you know any other 3 months old who can do that? I don’t think so!] , but I finally get to say, “See I told you so!” Now I got proof baby, that I was right all along!

         Sorry about that, just a mother’s pride talking there for a moment. Next year will be a big year for Adonai. He will turn eight and will be able to be baptized (we are still working on that) and will be able to join the Boys Scouts. He is growing up so fast. I am proud of my little man. He is growing into a wonderful, caring person.


         There is not much to discuss on the personal side, actually it has been an utter failure. The closest thing I have had to a date is when Andrea and I went to the Mexican restaurant across the street from the school. It has sort of become our tradition, at the end of every semester we go to this little Mexican restaurant and celebrate being one semester closer to graduation.  

         Though I hate being alone, I am slowly becoming to accept this is my fate. That I will probably never be married. It is not an easy thing to come to terms with. Accepting I had cancer was a cakewalk compared to accepting that I may never find anyone who loves me. Well that is not exactly true, I have found someone who does love me, he just doesn’t want to marry me. His name is Kenny and we have known each other for years. He is a wonderful man and a great friend. In fact, he got me through a trial in my life this past year that I wouldn’t have survived without his support. When my life started falling apart around February, all I could think of at the time was that I needed to call Kenny.  I knew he would help me. He did. I think that trial deepened our relationship. He went from never even using the word love in regard to me to being the first one to say before hanging up. Of course, there were stages in between but I am wearing him down. LOL

Even so he is in New York, I’m out here and it would sure would be nice to have a date once in a while. Oh well, I have gone four years without one, I guess I can do five. Que sera sera.                                 

                 WE ARE FAMILY…OR NOT!!!

This summer proved to be a rather difficult one, after 40 years of wondering, after 40 years of not knowing, I found my biological family.  I met a woman on Facebook and when I found out she helped people to find their biological families, I asked her to find mine. She did. I found out my biological mother was still alive. I was one of 7 children. A lot of things matched up with what my adoptive mother told me.  Mom told me that my birth mother didn’t keep any of her children. My half brother would confirm that. My Mom told me of a story (which sort of clenched it for me) that my birth mother was adamant that I was Swedish or something. My birth mother was adamant that I was Silician. Anyway, I talked to my oldest brother and things seemed to go well until I sent him my picture, then I never heard from him again. As for my birth mother, she didn’t want me to contact her. Saw that coming from a mile away. Figured I didn’t really lose anything and this way I sort of know. Oh well, I already have the best family around doesn’t matter if these strangers don’t want to be my family. It is their loss, not mine.

U.S. Boycotts U.N Racism Conference

mean-looking-obamaOkay Obama, don’t try getting all decent on me now, buddy. It is not going to work. But in the spirit of giving credit where credit is due, even to the likes of Obama (and boy do I hate when I have to take his side for anything, it unnerves me!) he has decided not to attend the Durban Review Conference in Geneva, Switzerland which is suppose to discuss racism but according to the CNN report singles out Israel for criticism.

US boycotts UN racism conference

Obama had warned them if they didn’t change their position he wouldn’t be a party to it and though they changed the document slightly it wasn’t enough to satisfy Obama.  You see just when I got my venom for Obama going, he goes and does something decent like defending Israel against her aggressors. Or like not prosecuting the CIA agents for torture. Stop it Obama, you are confusing me!

You can’t sit there and call our soldiers torturers and shut down Gitmo american-troops-huddlebut say everything the CIA did is peachy keen. You can’t allow a college you are giving a speech at to cover up Jesus’ name and not say boo but then defend Israel.  The inconsistent application of Obama’s “principles” is not just merely irritating but downright dangerous because you can never be too sure what side he will come down on.

Right now he is coming down on the side of Israel-which he should, but will that determination to stand behind the only true democracy in the Middle East continue throughout his tenure as president? Will Israel continue to be able to count on his support?  We just don’t know and if I was Israel, I wouldn’t be overly hopeful about it.  Bowing to the Saudi king sure didn’t convince us that his loyalty was to America let alone Christianity.  And the greatest ally, Israel has is the American Christian.

georgetillerThe National Black Caucus  (NBC)  is upset by Obama’s refusal to go to the conference.  And why wouldn’t they be? Racism is their bread and butter. Maybe they were hoping Obama would send them the manual upon his return “101 Ways to Milk Racism for All Its Worth!” Hey NBC, you want to take on racism, why don’t you go to Kansas and try to get Tiller locked up? Why don’t you take on real racism-the abortion of over ten million Black babies! Or are you too busy concerned about the bling life to take on the White liberals that are killing us?

And though I respect his decision not engage in this anti-Semitic attack towards Israel, I wish he cared about Black children as much! I wish he would stop funding abortion overseas and killing off the Black population here and abroad! I wish he would stand up for the 60 percent of Black children that don’t make it out of the womb! I wish he truly cared about racism.  On the upside, maybe because of this Jesus will forgive him for being a weenie the other day and covering up his name.  I just wish he would choose a principle and stick with it. In the meantime, I will keep a close eye on him and keep telling myself it is progress not perfection.  Maybe this is progress but I am not holding my breath.

A Baby Changes Everything

If this video doesn’t move you, please call 911 pronto. You are obviously missing a heart and are in desperate need of a cardiologist. Maybe since you are in such desperate need they will put you first on the transplant list. For the rest of us with a heart, enjoy this video. It definitely choked me up.

The Importance of Saying Merry Christmas

Now at first it might seem like a trivial thing. I mean who really cares if people say “Merry Christmas” or not? The thing is, something as small as this is no longer being left up to the individual but is increasingly being forbidden by businesses all over, even those who are supposed to be more “family friendly.” Remember stripping religious rights away from a people doesn’t happen all at once. It happens when a little boy is forbidden to draw Jesus in a picture at his school. It happens when the valedictorian has her microphone turned off because she mentions Jesus. It happens every time someone wishes you a Happy Holiday or Season’s Greetings instead of Merry Christmas. It happens incrementally. Then before you know you wake up and there are no more Bibles being sold, there are underground churches because they are forbidden to exist in public. Everything you thought could never happen suddenly has and when you think back on it you will realize all this happened when saying Merry Christmas was forbidden and people thought it was too trivial to pay attention to.

So when tomorrow comes wish people a Merry Christmas, not Happy Holidays, not Season’s Greetings but Merry Christmas. After all Christ has done and sacrificed for us it is the least we can do. So I will start you off-MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL MY READERS (AND EVEN TO MY HATERS!) AND I HOPE ALL OF YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL NEW YEAR!!!

A Mormon Mom Looks at Jesus vs. Santa

Jesus v. Santa

If you go to my Tech Inventions and Websites page you will see a website I have discovered and really enjoy. It is called Life As Me. The article is written by that author and it does an excellent job at explaining how one can be Mormon (or any Christian for that matter) and still tell her child about Santa.  I guess it is the belief that Santa is for the secular kids and Jesus is for the Christians and the two shall never meet.

However, Santa Claus is based on a Catholic Bishop, St. Nicholas.  He was born in the third century and eventually became the Bishop of Myra. If you want to learn more about the real Saint Nicholas go here:

St. Nicholas Center

So because the real St. Nicholas was a follower of Christ, you can join the two together and help build the faith of your child. However, you can allow them to have the mythical Santa Claus as well. A little imagination never hurt anyone.  In fact, Jesus is the one who gave us the wondrous gift of imagination, he gave us the land of dreams. He wouldn’t have done that if it wasn’t something he thought was important and necessary.  Therefore to take away a child’s ability to marvel is downright cruel and inhumane!

I can prattle on forever but she makes a much better case than I. So go…’re still here? Go read her article already. LOL

Proposition 8: The Musical

Just when you though the hullabaloo about Prop 8 had calmed down and that the radical, militant gays had already reached the heights of sheer stupidity, we are given this.  It is bad enough we have to be constantly bombarded with their juvenile angst but now they want to add blasphemy  to their long list of sins as well.  Since Jesus makes a special appearance to condone gay marriage.  Never mind the man himself already declared marriage to be between a man and a woman, he’s a liar!

I wrote this piece immediately after hearing about this musical for a blog on Smart Girl Politics.  Here is what I wrote:

That’s right you heard right-the bigots that brought us intolerant displays of hatred are now bringing it to a theater near you. This one can definitely be filed under get a life! Neil Patrick Harris will be starring in this “production” as will Jack Black.  That is right the same guy who as a kid brought us Doogie Howser M.D. (or I guess his gay porn version would be Doggie-Now, Sir!) is now adding music and kicky little dance steps to it. Because if the protests in the streets don’t get you-the fabulous costumes will!

Tired of invading people’s financial records to see if they backed prop 8? Have you written so many hate letters to Thomas S. Monson (my prophet and church’s president) that you have carpal tunnel syndrome? Would you like to do something to further your hateful cause but just don’t have the time needed to employ Nazi tactics anymore? Well relax, sit back and enjoy a musical based on your irrational prejudice of democracy.

Sure you lost but that is no reason you have to take it like an adult. Not when you can act like a bratty two year old and serve ten dollars lattes in nice plush chairs at the same time. Be sure to save your program because it is indeed going to become a collector’s item in the years to come. That’s right a hundred years from now when people are looking back on 2008, they will be able to say, “You’re kidding me? These nitwits made a play about this? Were people in 2008 particularly stupid or something?” Of which the reply will be, “Well the Left was, that is why like the dodo bird before them, they died out!”

So come on down and sing, laugh and have a good time ridiculing those of moral and religious beliefs. You will be glad you did.

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