Adoption: The Real Choice

 

My family

The Leichnitz Four with our parents. Jeff in the white shirt

 

Those in the abortion fight try to act like there are only two choices a woman can make when she is faced with a “crisis” pregnancy. Those choices being keeping the child or aborting it. Yet adoption seems to be thrown out as an option entirely.  You will hear women say, “I could never give up my child.” But you could kill your child, is that it? “What if ended up in a bad home?” And killing it is better than a “bad home.”

 

I am adopted so I take issue with all the reasons one has for not giving up Jeff and Seththeir child for adoption. But I am not going to tell you my story. I am going to tell you the story of my brother, Jeffrey Alan Leichnitz. He recently passed away on December 18th, 2015 and though it cut like a knife when I first heard the news and I am not sure how I am going to get through my difficult times without calling up my brother, I know one thing: his story needs to be told.

Jeff, Veronica and Seth

Jeff was an incredible man and he had such love for everyone he met. He had a way of touching people’s lives and leaving them better than how he found them. That was true of me. Jeff was my first friend and my longest as well. I thought a lot of my brother, in fact, here is an article I wrote about him five years ago: https://blacknright.wordpress.com/30-days-of-heroes/jeff-leichnitz-august-13-2010/    Yet there would be no relationship had his mother not given up for adoption. He first came into the Leichnitz home when he was a mere nine days old. However, it would take two years of court dates and fighting for him before he was finally allowed to be adopted.

For many people that is a real fear, having a child come into your home Jeff, Veronica, Adonai and me.learning to love them and then have the state take them away. Of course, that is a possibility even if the child is biologically yours as well. Jeff and I were both fought for and we both ended up with loving parents. Adoption gave my brother a home. It gave him two sisters and a brother who all loved him dearly. I was the closest to him, but all of us loved him.

JeffRight before he died my sister-in-law told me that he told her, “I miss my Mom.” and when she responded back that she also missed her mother as well, he told her, “No, you don’t understand, I really miss my Mom.” He wasn’t talking about hs birth mother, he was talking about our mother. The woman that raised us and loved us. The woman that went out to see him in Oklahoma. The woman that worried about him. No matter what scrapes they had along the way, the truly loved one another.

The love of the Leichnitz clan created a truly great man. He was a man that loved his family. He was a man that loved Jesus Christ and dedicated his life to walking the walk. He was not a perfect man, none of us are, but always did his best to become a better man than he was before.  A friend of my brother’s, David Webster, wrote my brother helped him get is business up and running. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jm_Iv2yJxB0&feature=youtu.be because that is the kind of man my brother was. To paraphrase Frank Capra: To my brother, Jeff, the richest man in town!

I could go on forever, but I think you get the point. But if you want to hear more stories, watch this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H1P2gHWF8fg. In the end, I would like to make clear, when you adopt a child, you are adopting the Jeffs of the world. You are making a difference in one person’s life forever and then they can make a difference in the lives of others.  You are not taking in someone else’s throwaway, you are actually getting the gold they could not keep. There are those of us, who cannot adopt as much as our heart desires wants to, it breaks our heart to not be able to take in a child. But for those who can open your hearts and  homes to the Jeffreys of the world. You will not regret it.

The Demise of Planned Parenthood

Cecile RichardsThe abortion giant has survived many things in their past. From the death of Holly Patterson to undercover stings where girls were told not to mention the age of the man who got them pregnant. But this one tops them all because it was always easy to sweep under the rug. This current debacle has Cecile Richards coming out of hiding to address the public and the accusation that Planned Parenthood sells aborted baby parts to various medical organizations and makes a nice profit doing so.

It is one thing to say an occasional death is part of the abortion industry and it is even quite another to cover up statutory rape, because the girls can always say they consented to the 25-year-old man sleeping with them. However, selling body parts is not something that easily palatable. Even pro-choicers will find this going beyond what is acceptable in a free society. This is the beginning of the end for Planned Parenthood. Pro-lifers have been screaming about defunding Planned Parenthood for years now, but it always fallen on deaf ears. No more. Congress is now listening. Of course, Cecile refutes any wrongdoing on Planned Parenthood’s part but do you really expect them to say, “Of course, we commit felonies by selling baby parts, what do you think we did with all those tiny bodies?”  When Cecile issued an apology it was on behalf of the tone, not the practice of selling aborted baby parts.

“Our top priority is the compassionate care that we provide. In the video, one of our staff members speaks in a way that does not reflect that compassion. This is unacceptable, and I personally apologize for the staff member’s tone and statements,” said Cecile Richards, the group’s president, in a video out Thursday. “As always, if there is any aspect of our work that can be strengthened, we want to know about it, and we take swift action to address it.” (http://www.cnn.com/2015/07/16/politics/planned-parenthood-president-criticizes-gop-candidates/

I am sorry how do you compassionately talk about selling aborted children for their various body parts? The doctor found in the midst of the current firestorm is Dr. Deborah Nucatola. She discusses how she takes care to save organs like heart, liver, etc in order to get the best results for “fetal donation.” Of course, being that they are getting paid 30 to 100 a pop, it doesn’t sound like “donations” to me.  What is interesting about this video is that liberal media giants like CNN covered the story. This wasn’t some little story put out on some little blog, like mine, it went viral. So much that the normally liberal media had to pay attention.

Standing with Planned ParenthoodCecile is under the delusion that this will pass like all the other times they have been investigated. That this is purely an “anti-choice attempt to shut down Planned Parenthood” but I don’t care how pro-choice you, very few can stomach the selling of body parts to medical research firms.  Especially when these are baby body parts. What is the difference between this and say selling an adult cadaver to a medical school? The difference is the practice by which they come by the parts is already illegal. It is called Partial Birth Abortion and was outlawed under Bush in 2003. If you watch the video it tells you how they do the abortion breech-style. Breech position can cause complications with future pregnancies.

Of course, people are standing with Planned Parenthood. However, standing with Planned Parenthood at this time is not only a lesson in futility but it it also like standing with the Third Reich in 1945. As more and more of the horrors are exposed only the most psychotic will stand by the organiztion. Planned Parenthood is on its way out and as its doors begin to close as they already have:

Several Planned Parenthood clinics in Oregon and Iowa recently closed, citing that they simply didn’t have the clients needed to keep their clinics open. Why the lack of clients?  Probably because of the lack of basic services.

The article then goes on to state the reason Planned Parenthood closed down in Texas:

In Texas, we have seen many Planned Parenthood facilities close shop. The reasoning here is different. Planned Parenthood is choosing to close rather than bring their current centers up to legal safety standards. In San Antonio, an annual inspection report showed that the Planned Parenthood facility had serious sterilization issues. They weren’t separating clean and dirty instruments. They weren’t testing their autoclave machine to ensure that it was still working. Lots of problems. We see this in many facilities…They chose to close their filthy centers. Pro-lifers didn’t force them to close. They chose to close them all on their own.

https://www.lifesitenews.com/blogs/why-are-so-many-planned-parenthood-clinics-closing-its-not-why-you-think

It is much easier to blame pro-lifers than to admit they provide sub par care. Meanwhile, Cecile Richards talks about how 1 in 5 women receive services from Planned Parenthood. However, that leaves a whooping 80% who don’t  receive any care from Planned Parenthood. Shouldn’t those 80 percent just be wasting away somewhere? And if only 20 percent depend on Planned Parenthood and they are closing their doors then what is going to happen to those 20 percent without Planned Parenthood. They are going to be just fine.  Planned Parenthood has long since ceased being a safe place for women and only cares about making a profit at all costs. It is time they are shut down. It is time our Holocaust comes to an end.

Violence in Girls: A Growing Epidemic

Note: I recently came across this article that I started writing after the March for Women’s Lives in 2004, due to a lot of technical computer problems it was only recently discovered. I have decided to post it anyway, because truth has no time limit.

On April 25, 2004 there was a march in Washington D.C “March for Women’s Lives” that drew hundreds of thousands of women in advocating the right for women to be violent. Abortion advocates might scoff at such a simplistic assessment but that exactly what it was-spin and propaganda doesn’t change the essential truth. Abortion is violence. Not only on the fetus being assassinated but also on the woman herself. Abortion is painful and still leads to women’s deaths, it is just nice and legal now.

The next day an article appeared in AOL News. It reported girls are becoming more violent than ever before. The article tells the story of Nicole Townes, a 12-year-old African-American girl, who was beaten and put into a coma by girls at a birthday party. Her crime? Being kissed on the cheek by the boyfriend of the birthday girl. When the mother saw Nicole being kissed she is reported as telling her daughter “to handle her business.” Nicole survived the attack but it is going to be a long road to recovery. When we make everyone the enemy no one is safe. Nicole didn’t kiss the boy, he kissed her, but she was made the enemy not the boy. The mother would never tell her daughter to beat up her boyfriend, after all boys have more upper body strength and her daughter would’ve probably been the one to end up in a coma. Nicole was an easier target.

What do these two seemingly unrelated events have in common you ask? A woman thinking that it is okay to be violent. Think about it, when we allow women to act violently to solve problems such an unwanted pregnancy why should we prevent them from using violence to solve other more trivial problems? We tell them the fetus inside them is the enemy and deserves to be killed. How much of a bigger leap is it then to kill anyone, unborn or born, who is seen as the enemy? Nicole was the enemy and deserved to die for “disrespecting” her. Even though Nicole was completely innocent as long as she was perceived as the enemy she could be killed without remorse. This is what the abortion mentality has given us-violent girls.

The article pondered the increase in violence in girls while simultaneously reporting on the abortions rights march. Why are girls becoming increasingly more violent? Hmmmm, I don’t know, could it be that we have thousands of women marching in Washington saying violence is the solution to life’s problems I wonder? Could it be how we glamorize bullies? Could it be the way we tell them, as long as they are smaller you have every right to hurt them? Nah couldn’t be any of those things.

The article stated: Nationally, violence among teenage boys – as measured by arrest statistics and surveys – outstrips violence among teenage girls 4 to 1, according to the Justice Department. But a generation ago, it was 10 to 1. Schools report a similar pattern in the number of girls suspended or expelled for fighting. (http://aolsvc.news.aol.com/news/article.adp?id=20040426170809990012)

Roe v Wade has been with us for a little over a single generation. A generation is approximately 20-25 years. Roe has been around for 31. Yet within that generation violence among girls has risen 60%. This is unacceptable. The culture of violence is permeating within our young women and turning them into warriors. Women are increasingly becoming more violent in the media as well from Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Xena, Tomb Raider and the current movie Mean Girls where a group of girls set out to make one girl’s life miserable depicts the growing violence among teenage girls. We no longer hold life to be sacred; it is kill or be killed. We are raising a generation of women rebelling against their womanhood and trying to “masculinize” them in the process. Critics will, of course, say there is no direct correlation between abortion and the increasing violence of women; that one simply has nothing to do with the other. That is denial of the obvious though. Abortion was supposed to end violence (don’t ask me the logic behind this though I haven’t a clue) against women and children. According to the pro-choice theory, a woman would choose to have a child and therefore wouldn’t abuse it. That hasn’t been the case, however, in fact child abuse has risen over 500% since Roe v. Wade was passed. So we only increased the violence against our children and a generation later we are paying for it through another generation of violent children.

Abortion rights advocates like to say, abortion makes it possible for a mother to be more loving to her children she bears since she can pick which ones she will keep. That it affects how she treats her children. They are right-it does affect how she treats them-she treats them worse. Women who have abortion are more likely to abuse their born children. How you treat your child when it is unborn affects how you will treat when they are born, and if you violently kill your unborn child why shouldn’t you violently kill your born one when it makes you angry? Or when taking care of it suddenly becomes inconvenient? The increasing violence among girls shouldn’t be surprising, alarming most definitely, but not surprising. We have inundated them with violent messages, we have made hedonism an art form and we have made morals a non-obligatory part of our society, is it no wonder a teenage girl can have a baby at her prom, throw it in the dumpster and return to her prom as nothing has happened? We sit in judgment of her but we are the ones who created her. The abortion mentality made that act acceptable. We have Planned Parenthood fighting against partial birth abortions, don’t we? All she did was have an after birth abortion. What’s the difference? Partial birth, after birth, they both are killing a newborn baby why is it only okay for a medical doctor to do it and not for the girl to do it herself? She was simply being self-reliant and think of the medical bills she saved the state from paying! Abortion rights advocates should be applauding her ingenuity! Instead they miss the message completely, “If she had let us kill her baby she wouldn’t have to done it on her own, and besides we won’t get those fetal parts to send to medical researchers.”

Violence has become a way of life for women in “civilized” countries. This is not strictly an American phenomenon. According to an English website: “Not only does 60% of abuse and neglect stem from mothers but the figure seems almost the ‘standard’ in many developed countries, e.g. UK, US, Canada and Australia.” (http://homepage.ntlworld.com/verismo/childmurder.html) So much for the notion that women are all sweetness and light. The idea that women can perpetuate violence towards their children and not have that spill over into other areas of their lives is a totally ludicrous assumption. Such ideas are never proposed when it is a man committing the violence, we wouldn’t say that a rapist acts ethical in every other aspect of his life and that his thirst for raping women has no effect on his character. If he is a rapist-that is his character, no matter what else he may do. So why don’t we hold women who abort to the same criteria as those who commit other atrocities?

As long as abortion is continued to be seen as a valid solution to one of life’s “problems” [Though having a child is hard, I would never see it as a “problem” but as a wonderful unexpected blessing.] there will continue to be violent girls. So the next time your child gets beat up, your liquor store gets robbed or there’s a drive by in your neighborhood, you might want to take a second look at the perpetrator because it just might be a girl.

Finding Family

I am in the process of finding my biological family. It has been weird to say the least.  It all started when I saw a random post by a woman who had recently found a biological family for an adoptee on Facebook. Thinking this might be my only opportunity to find my biological roots I asked her if she would be able to find mine and she responded that she would be.

Within a few days I had a name. I was told this was my biological mother and my biological father. I was hesitant at first. Father!? Well then that can’t be me. I had always been told no one knew my biological father because my mother was a prostitute and thereby my father was probably was one of her johns.  It was an emotional roller coaster ride.  How could that be? You mean I could actually have a real life Dad? That seemed to crazy. A part of me wanted to believe it.  I mean to go from a transactional baby to a child at least conceived in wedlock seemed miraculous.

I knew I had other siblings and it was them I really wanted to find anyway. And here was a list of names. There are some things that don’t seem to fit with the man’s memory who might be my brother. So there is a still a chance we got the wrong people. But there is some things that mesh with what I know.  I sent him a picture so he could see me.  I haven’t heard back. Who knows.  Maybe it is the Black thing, I don’t know.  I know my biological mother was White and therefore my biological father was Black. Now the records have the man listed as my father as a Negro, though none of his other children with her are looking very Black.  According the woman who found who we think is my biological mother, she is adamant that I am Sicilian. My mother told me a similar story about when I was born they asked “What is the nationality of the father?” And my adopted didn’t remember but thought she was very adamant that the father was Swedish. The fact that she was adamant about that fact makes me believe that it is probably is my biological mother.

It has been crazy though. We will see.

Personhood Amendment Comes To California

The Hand of Hope (c) Michael Clancy

California along with several other states is looking to add a personhood amendment to their constitution.  I have to admit, just when I think California is a lost cause and I am ready to throw up my hands in disgust and give up already, something like this comes along and renews my faith in my beloved home state.

California is collecting signatures to get personhood on the ballot. Of course, pro-aborts are none too happy about it because the end result is to eradicate abortion.  California has the most abortuaries of any state. According to Mark Crutcher at Life Dynamics and his website http://www.lifedynamics.org there are 127 clinics in California [Though I don’t think the site listing the abortuaries has been updated in a while so there might be less or more at this  point. Though it is still the best estimate we have.]  and the pro-aborts certainly don’t want something like a personhood law messing up their profits.

The personhood law for California reads as follows:

“The term “person” applies to all living human organisms from the beginning of their biological development, regardless of the means by which they were procreated, method of reproduction, age, race, sex, gender, physical well-being, function, or condition of physical or mental dependency and/or disability. “

This law would not only have an effect on the abortion industry but the in vitro fertilization (IVF)  and embryonic stem cell research (ESCR)  industries as well. Since embryos created by IVF would be protected under this law, you could not simply discard the ones that don’t get implanted. You would have to either not create so many embryos during the fertilization process or they would have to care for the frozen embryos. Next because these embryos would be considered human beings (as they should be!) you could not experiment on them, especially when  you know the experiment would result in their death.  However, that won’t really be a setback in terms of medical research because adult stem cells have shown to be vastly superior to embryonic and have the capacity to be pluripotent [the ability to take on other characteristics of various cells] like embryonic stem cells and without the additional cancer risk.

All in all the Personhood Amendment would be a boon to California as it would show America that California is not the abortion loving capital of the world or at least our country after all. That we do have our priorities in order. The California flag has the California grizzly bear on it and we, as California, have had to bear a lot of liberal hogwash that continues to control our fair state. It is time we pull the rug out from under the poor-choice crowd and demonstrate we are once and for all a pro-life state.

Other states with Personhood Amendments

North Dakota (the only state with no abortion clinic and a Personhood Amendment to their Constitution already passed.

Mississippi-will have it on the ballot in 2011.

Florida

Montana

Missouri

Colorado

Maryland (had hearings on March 19th to get a Personhood Amendment on the ballot)

And as I find others I will keep you updated but as you can see this movement is gaining ground, it is the slavery issue of our time.

http://www.californiahumanrights.com

Sign the Petition today!

Photo of the Golden Gate Bridge: http://www.terragalleria.com/california/california.sf-golden-gate-bridge.html

Satan Lives At Union Station and Other Kid Wisdom

The older my son gets the more intrigued I get by the way he sees the world. While he does definitely have some of me in him, [“The bad guys are Democrats!” he will utter as he is playing his Nintendo DS for instance] there is also a lot of “wisdom” that is solely him and that I get a kick out of.  All mothers have stories like this. Your kid will say something and you will go, “Hmmm, that is a good point, I never thought of it that way.” So I am going to share some of my child’s wisdom with you.

Satan lives at Union Station

Since that is the title of this piece, let’s start there. Why does Adonai think Satan lives at Union Station?  Well it makes sense when you break it down. Hell is a place below us and Satan lives in Hell.  Union Station is also underground or below us and since Satan lives below us it must mean he lives at Union Station.  Given some of the characters I have run into at Union Station, he just might be right.

Liberals would

As I was walking my son to school one day, we saw a pair of pants in the middle of the street. Not on the sidewalk or near the curb but in the middle of the street. I thought it odd, I had never seen clothing  just lying in the middle of the street before like that.  So I asked rhetorically, of course, who would get naked in the middle of the street? His reply was “Liberals would.” I almost died laughing.  Again I had to agree with him. If anyone was going to get naked in the middle of the street, it would be a liberal.

Skeleskin

This is not so much “wisdom” but what he used to call our skeleton. Instead of skeleton, he called it skeleskin. Also when you break it down, it does make a lot more sense. Since the skeleton is beneath a layer of skin, it should be called skeleskin.  That is one of my favorite words he created. That and padwin for pattern. Okay padwin has no logic to it whatsoever but it sounds so cute!

We’re Being Read

This was probably the spookiest of them all.  One day, he couldn’t have been more than 2 years old, we were walking down the street and he told me. “Mommy, we’re being read.”  So I asked him what he meant by that. He went on to explain “We’re in a book and we’re being read.”  So I asked him who was reading us. He answered back, “God.”  Now I had never addressed the Book of Life with him and neither had anyone else in his life.  Yet here he was quoting scripture.

He that overcometh, the same shall be clothed in white raiment; and I will not blot out his name out of the book of life, but I will confess his name before my Father, and before his angels.                                                                   ~Rev. 3:5

Then again children intutively understand God alot more than adults do as they are much closer to him then we adults will ever be. We lose that intimate relationship as we age but as a child we have perfect faith in our Father in Heaven so it does not surprise he would use my son to quote scripture at me, even if he does not know it.  I don’t know what God wanted me to take from that, maybe that he is looking out for us and not to fret because we are always “being read.”

In any case, I just wanted to share my son’s wisdom with you. And I would love to her about your child sages as well. So fill me in.